Ungolden Silence – My Thoughts on Bill Cosby

Like many Americans I loved The Cosby Show.  My favorite scene was when the family sang “Night and Day,” by Ray Charles (see the video above). I have to watch that scene now and remember Heathcliff Huxtable and his family were fictional characters though they were all well-loved.

The accusations eighteen women have brought to light in recent months, should not be ignored, just because the man is famous, well-loved and respected. Mr. Cosby stated recently these accusations are not worth discussing.   This will not work because these accusations are serious and they keep coming. Just on December 11, 2014, Beverly Johnson told her story to Vanity Fair.

Here is what she included at the bottom of the intense article –

For a long time I thought it was something that only happened to me, and that I was somehow responsible. So I kept my secret to myself, believing this truth needed to remain in the darkness. But the last four weeks have changed everything, as so many women have shared similar stories, of which the press have belatedly taken heed. – Beverly Johnson

Society, we can no longer ignore these women.

The fact is many women have been raped and chose to told no one for the very reasons we’re seeing played out with Mr. Cosby now. After being traumatized, a woman can become paralyzed in her thoughts – ‘who would believe me’ – especially when their perpetrator could be such a well-respected male in the community.

I have always wondered why news organizations are asked to protect the victim’s names.  A woman told me since rape is a violation against a woman’s body, that it is personal. Yes, I understand it is a personal violation, but if these women don’t come forward, they leave another woman open to experience a similar violation too. Look how many in this case didn’t speak up and are just now breaking their silence, in some cases way past the statue of limitations.

We’re at fault. We encourage the silence as a society. Surely, when a victim comes forward and name their abuser, the first question must not be, “Are you telling the truth?”

I do NOT want to believe Mr. Cosby would violate a woman, definitely not as many as those who have come forward in recent months. We as a society must hear these women and allow them to come forward when they have been sexually assaulted.  We as a society must give the victims of sexual assaults respect by taking their accusations seriously.  Their voices have to be heard. 

Now don’t get me wrong, those women who falsely accused a man of rape, they need to go to jail. Once the accusations are out there it cannot be erased and a woman who would do such a thing needs to go to jail.

I just don’t think this is the case with Mr. Cosby right now.


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Lydia Brew

Lydia E. Brew has Cerebral Palsy and as a child she could not play like so she daydreamed. She loves drama and writing. Lydia began writing in elementary school “Why do you think they call it dope?” The essay was placed on the front bulletin board lobby of Roosevelt Elementary School. She did not know that was the beginning of her writing journey. Lydia is the author of Ungolden Silence, a thought provoking novel about rape and how it affect not only the victim, but the people that surround them. Go to Ungolden Silence.com and Amazon.com.

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